Category: Social MediaCategory: Social Media

Photographer Noah Kalina posted a photo on Instagram’s Threads, which found favor with the algorithm and shown to a wider audience.

This led to “context collapse,” as most of that wider audience don’t know the work of Noah Kalina, so people assumed the image was made by AI, and that Noah was a bot.

I said “the big lesson here: don’t post anything ever,” in the YouTube comments, to which Noah replied, “the coolest people I know have zero internet presence.”

I donated some bikes to the CAT Bicycle Cooperative last weekend. The space was a bee-hive of activity, buzzing with volunteers and folks hanging out.

I visited a new store front in town because I’ve been talking with the owner over the years, and I bought some delicious cookies and coffee, and might be helping them set up an email announcement list.

This is just a span of a few days, and the result of IRL conversations and interactions, limited only by geography and time.

The best networking is just being a part of community. This doesn’t mean you need to join every group or sign up to volunteer every weekend, but find folks and orgs that you vibe with and say hello on occasion.

As I’ve said recently, “the more I think about Social Media Escape Club, the more I realize it’s all about the personal connections. It’s not just about the conversations, the encouragement, the support, the regular check ins, but the depth of those interactions.”

Like, I’ve been following Cody Cook-Parrott for awhile, since their posts about leaving Instagram a few years back. They were a big inspiration for me for leaning into the work I’m doing here!

So I reached out sometime in late 2024 and asked if they’d be up for a short Zoom chat about email segments, and they said yes – you can watch the video here! Also, check out their Reclaim the Archive, a fundraiser workshop for Cody’s books.

“This workshop is about reclaiming and re-animating your own archive — as an artist, writer, or small business owner.”

Rad!

So, reach out. Connect. Strike up a conversation. Send that email. As Carly Valancy says, “your future self is begging you to reach out.”

“While reaching out I found myself. I found my voice. I had the beautiful epiphany we all hope to have at some point, which is that you are responsible for your life. You are responsible for your decisions and opportunities and to a large extent, your luck. Reaching out instilled the belief in me that literally anything could happen if you connect with the right person.”

Social media wants us working alone, isolated, cut off from real support, trusting only the algorithm, buying another lottery ticket and hoping the next post get 13 likes.

Or, as Seth Godin says, we can seek out the others.

“Our best work is far more likely to happen when we have peers. You’re likely to become the average of the people you spend professional time, so choosing your cohort is best not left to chance.

There’s no map for this, no step by step guide, and that’s why it’s so important to start now.

From an interview with Craig Lewis earlier this year:

“Do I believe we can exist without social media? Absolutely I do.

There’s so many ways that we can get in touch and build community and build audience and build a fan group around what we do without putting all our magic onto other people’s platforms.”

For some, posting on social media can be dangerous, as South Central Run Club explains:

“Most of our runners are Black and brown and you never know when ICE is gonna pull up. Instead of broadcasting our runs and making us vulnerable to surveillance, we stopped putting it on Instagram to make people feel safer to come and hang out.”

Great question from Evolet Yvaine via Substack.

Q. I’m just curious if any of your interviews are with fiction authors. Or if you’ve had clients who are fiction authors and how they’re navigating getting off social media.

A. Honestly, no, but I bet if I had some more conversations with fiction writers we’d get a little closer to the answer. Like, there is just so much to explore in this area, and so many beliefs to bust through, and so many ideas to bat around, but it takes time, trust, and some good old faith to see it through.

If you’re interested, you can get a 30 day trial for just $10 and join any of my 3+ weekly Escape Pod Zoom calls to talk about this sort of stuff with other creative folks!

A friend of mine got a promotion at work. Talked to another friend who got a “word of mouth” referral, and it meeting a new client tomorrow. A local business owner is moving to a new location, and we talked about the headaches involved (and the return of their delicious chocolate chip cookies).

Was chatting with another friend who has wanted to start doing 1:1 client work, and they just got their first booking. Had a Zoom chat with someone I met on an Akimbo workshop call back in 2019, and we bounced around good vibes and stellar energy.

The more I think about Social Media Escape Club, the more I realize it’s all about the personal connections. It’s not just about the conversations, the encouragement, the support, the regular check ins, but the depth of those interactions.

Social media promotes more views, impressions, likes, and replies. It’s the glut of “happy birthday” comments left on those automated LinkedIn and Facebook posts, instead of the warmth of someone who texts or calls you on your big day.