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Tara McMullin wrote a great piece about self-promotion, which you should read.

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I posted something on Substack Notes about the subject, and since it resonated so well, I figured I’d share it again:

Years ago, “self-promotion” meant posting something on a social platform, and most of your followers saw it.

It was great when it worked!

Then came algorithms, and now self-promotion feels like a constant battle.

It’s not you, it’s the system.

You can’t post just once, because 90% of your audience won’t even see it. This is why I’d always tell people, “Promote your new song a few times a week, at different times of day!”

But then having to post, plan, and schedule starts to feel like screaming into the void.

Oh, and then Instagram says it wants videos. Twitter removes links. Facebook and LinkedIn limit your reach when you include a link. Also, don’t say “link in bio!”

It’s not even self-promotion at this point – it’s tap dancing, juggling, or card tricks in the middle of Times Square, along with 900 million other creative people doing the same.

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There were many great comments:

• “It’s not self-promotion. It’s called persuasive technology and it’s used to increase user engagement. We are social media puppets, working for free to increase stakeholder share value.”
• “Honestly, it has just become shouting into the void for me now.”
• “It’s a game of ever changing rules, that’s for sure.”
• “It’s clear that if you’re (on social media), you’ve gotta play the game. It’s kinda no different to the office politics I endure on a daily (workday) basis in this way.”

I was asked a few times what the solution is, and my belief is this:

WE ARE THE SOLUTION.

Do cool things with your friends and put it on the internet. That’s it.

Make interesting things, tell your interesting friends about those things.

Here’s how I grew my newsletter…

One, Ryan J. Downey recommended me to his subscribers of Stream N’ Destroy. I’ve known Ryan for well over a decade, and we know (and work with) many of the same people.

I didn’t ask Ryan for the recommendation, but he did it, and I owe him a dinner, that’s for sure.

I couldn’t make that happen. I would never ask. But hey – make cool things and sometimes people will share the cool things you make with people they know.

Second, Laura Kidd and I had a chat about email marketing on her YouTube channel, which led some of her fans to check out what I’m doing. We were just two cool people talking about a super nerdy thing (email newsletters), but it resonated with some people, and that’s what matters.

Third, I trusted my gut (because I have a cool gut, just like you!) and changed the name (and direction) of this newsletter. What started out as Heavy Metal Email became Social Media Escape Club in October 2023.

I leaned more into what makes my blood boil (social media) and found even more of an audience for what I write about.

Do cool things, and cool people might find them interesting and tell their cool friends about them, too.

You can wait for Spotify rates to increase, or a new benevolent social media platform to debut, or you can realize you’ve already got a great “social network” of people and fans and friends around you.

Focus on the people who are right in front of you. Delight them, focus on them, and self-promotion will be a breeze.

Lindsey Jordan (Snail Mail) talks to Monster Children about social media in the music world:

“I think that anybody who is encouraging you to make a TikTok hit is probably brain dead. Don’t listen to them. Usually, those tactics don’t work. I’ve never done an actual ‘tactic’ and had it work.”

Experts say not being on TikTok is a missed opportunity, but we miss opportunities every day because we are singular creative beings and must do the dishes or cover a shift at work.

There are people you didn’t reach yesterday because you didn’t display your art in a small gallery in Denver, CO, or play a set in a nightclub in Paris last night.

Sure, “everyone” is on TikTok right now, but “everyone” is also at an art gallery.

Where are you?

Why aren’t you in the same room as the creative people you love? Start a Zoom call if you can’t meet up locally. Imagine the opportunities that could develop from that energy and support!

Why don’t you have a call with that local curator / booking agent / producer this week? You’re probably just two conversations with the right people to get that set up. Opportunity!

Oh, you haven’t talked with anyone about a potential collaboration in the last year?

Here’s a recent example: a client I work with remotely invited me to an album release get-together in Brooklyn, NY, later this month.

I could stay home and create content for LinkedIn… or I could book a hotel room, make travel arrangements, and be around people I already have connections with.

I believe there are opportunities in my already-existing universe, and I don’t need to continuously throw pebbles in the ocean of “social media possibility” to get more.

How many opportunities exist right now in your creative universe? In your own inboxes? In the contacts in your phones? People you bump into at the coffee shop? On Discord?

We’ve all missed opportunities, but maybe it’s time that we intentionally invest our efforts in the opportunities that better align with our own magical journeys.

P.S. thanks Dino Corvino for that Monster Children tip

Today, I want to talk about feelings. Specifically, the feeling that you want your people to have when they get an email from you or see something you wrote online.

When I got the idea to start posting metal trivia on Twitter in 2011, I knew I wanted people to feel stoked when answering metal trivia questions on Twitter.

See, I could ask a question like, “in what year did Metallica’s ‘… And Justice For All” come out?” and the answer would be 1988.

But I thought about it, and no one gets excited yelling “1988” in line at the grocery store or hitting reply while at a show.

Could you imagine a heavy metal trivia show on TV in the mid 90s and contestants yelling out 1988? No way.

So I asked, “This ‘bass-less’ Metallica album came out in 1988.”

And I could imagine people excitedly tapping their phones and replying, “AND JUSTICE FOR ALL!” This led to people talking about the production of that album, discussing their favorite song, or talking about Cliff Burton (sorry, non-metalheads, if I lost you here haha).

Now, reverse engineer all this for whatever creative project you’re producing.

How do you describe what you’re doing in a way that would make someone feel something?

Say you’ve got a book tour coming up.

• Instead of “BOOK TOUR ANNOUCEMENT,” your subject line could be “Will I see you in Boston? New Haven? What about Providence?”
  Wait, what? My favorite author is coming to Boston? The New England area?! That’s where I am – I better click!
• Instead of “I have a new course,” say, “If you want to learn how to write a month’s worth of newsletters in one sitting, sign up for my new course.”
  People want to save time and make money and make an impact – make them FEEL that.
• Instead of “join my sci-fi community,” say “we’re debating the best / worst sci-fi movies in our Discord and you should join us.”
  People have thoughts about sci-fi movies. I have a sci-fi tattoo. People don’t get tattoos that say COMMUNITY (unless they’re big fans of Dan Harmon, I guess).
• Instead of “come see me at the market next week,” maybe say “my favorite things about setting up at the local market.”
  Sure, you’ll be selling at the market. But talk about all the things people love about markets – the food, the smells, the people, the dogs!

You don’t have to outrun a bear; you just have to outrun your friends.

You need to outrun people writing bland subject lines and boring social media posts. You just need to get people to feel something when they get your emails or visit your website.

Stop being precious and “trust the wildness in your heart.” Get a little wild, or loud, or weird. It’s how you’ve built a following, an audience, an email list.

”Your readers have signed up to go on the ride you decide for them. Be bold and lead the way,” said Nishant Jain of The SneakyArt Post.

Be bold and lead the way, indeed.

I was a one-man band called Seth W.

I played the drums with my feet, I played the bass, and I sang all at the same time.

I played “The Car Song,” “The Jock Song,” “Runny Nose,” and many more. I even covered Celine Dion’s “My Heart Will Go On” (The Titanic movie has just come out).

It did this from 1998 to about 2001 or so.

Around this time, I met Tommy (maybe he took the photo above, but I’m not sure). He drove from NJ to see another band on the bill, but he “got” what I was doing. He booked me for a show in his town.

I got to play with Folly. I met Ben Kenney from Supergrub, who would go on to play with The Roots and Incubus.

That was around 25 years ago, and me and Tommy are still buds.

Could I have kept playing shows, writing silly songs, and maybe started touring?

Sure. But I didn’t want to do all that.

As Scott Perry says, play your own game:

“You can’t win playing someone else’s game.

And you can’t win a game you don’t want to play.”

I never got to play arenas or do big interviews, but I met Tommy.

What has this got to do with the Social Media Escape Club?

Well, I deleted my Instagram account on January 1st, 2024.

I met many great people through that app, but after all these years, I didn’t want to play that game anymore.

Could I have met another “Tommy?” I don’t know, maybe.

But just like I don’t want to spend time writing silly songs, I don’t want to waste hours on Instagram every week for some mystical payoff.

I mean, I turn 48 this year. I have a limited number of years left on this flying space rock – do I really want to spend that time staring at my phone?

Sure, “growing my audience” sounds like the right thing to do, but how much time am I investing in the people who are already onboard?

It’s like when I see people on social media say, “Gonna send some goodies to my 1,000th follower!” Is that how you make your first 999 followers feel special?

Tommy invited me to his New Year’s Eve get-together, but I was already planning on hiking up the nearby Appalachian Trail to watch the sun come up with another friend I met years ago (also from playing music).

Instead of chasing more, let’s seek depth in the new year.

Can you name five of your subscribers? Do you know what state or country they live in? Have you seen photos of their pets?

Depth isn’t a growth hack, but it has much better rewards.

Happy New Year.

When Roy Wood Jr. was asked if he deserved a shot at hosting the Daily Show, he said sure, but also, “make your own shot.”

Roy Wood Jr. understands how the game is played; wait to get picked, or make your own shot.

Seth Godin wrote, “reject the tyranny of being picked: pick yourself” back in 2011, and it absolutely stands the test of time:

It’s a cultural instinct to wait to get picked. To seek out the permission and authority that comes from a publisher or talk show host or even a blogger saying, “I pick you.” Once you reject that impulse and realize that no one is going to select you–that Prince Charming has chosen another house–then you can actually get to work.

Make your art, share your music, take your photos and then make your shot.

I write about newsletters – what you’re doing is probably a lot more interesting.

If no one asked you to share your 10 favorite things of the year in their publication, feature yourself on your website.

There’s no underground / alt flea market in your area? Make your own (a buddy and I are working on a pop-up flea market for musicians to unload their unused gear).

Wish you had a community of art freaks to hang out with? Start your own.

The technology is there (Zoom, Google Meet, Discord), you just need to ask some people to come hang out.

Because just posting and talking about what you do only goes so far, mostly because that’s what everyone else is doing.

We publish, post, and repost, hoping to get picked.

Pick your people, build a community, grow together.

Make your own shot.