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Social media lets us become viral stars in an instant. With just our phone and a funny dance or witty remark we can be mentioned on late night TV.

But all that is fleeting. Seldom does anymore make a career from that.

The real work is slower, with other folks. It’s building the foundation one brick at a time, for years. Decades, even.

Conversations, collaborations, emails, phone calls, meetings and messages. Other people will get us where we’re going.

This was written by Bradley Spitzer about photography, but applies to so many other areas of life:

“Spending $3,000 on a road trip will have a greater impact on improving your vision compared to buying that brand new camera you’ve been lusting over.”

Heck, skip the road trip and start with a walk!

Get up from your computer and get near some water, drink a glass of water, take a nap. The gear, the tactics, the strategies will be there when you come back, but making sure you’re replenished and whole is most important in all this.

Had an amazing chat with artist David Speed on his Creative Rebels podcast:

“Navigating (social media) is hard, so I was so happy to chat with Seth Werkheiser who offers a bunch of alternative ways to connect with your audience. Ways that don’t involve spending six hours producing a video that won’t be shown to the people who have chosen to follow you!”

We end our chat talking about this post ‘Outdated expectations kill creative dreams,” which is about my dad, and I was surprised to find myself getting emotional talking about it, but that’s where the conversation went!

Give a listen to the full 57 minute interview on Substack or Apple Podcasts.

One of the best ways to start getting away from social media is to think about where we put our stuff. We’re so conditioned to upload a photo, a thought, a hot-take to social media because we know something will happen – likes, comments, shares, etc. It’s absolutely the slot machine at the casino – insert coin, pull the lever, and something will happen.

Instead of posting that photo for “everyone,” try sending it to a friend and see what happens. Send it to another, with a little note.

Maybe post that photo on your blog and write a bit about it, and send a newsletter later to let people know about it.

Same with all our “hot takes” and opinions and ideas. Instead of posting them onto a platform to be monetized by Mark Zuckerburg and Elon Musk, put it on your website, use it as a prompt for your next Zoom call with friends, or email it to someone who would “get it” in your creative community.

We won’t get the same dopamine hit from these actions. They won’t go viral.

But maybe they’re the start of something better, like deeper relationships, or strengthening friendships.

It’s hard to be good friends with 10 people in your life when you’re always trying to entertain 1,000 strangers.

If you’re not on social media, what’s one thing you can do today that can help you get the word out?

Reframe the thinking of posting to everyone, and think of sharing with a few people.

Open your phone and send something to the people that are important enough to be in your phone.

How much energy could you gain by having a laugh with an old friend, or reconnecting with a colleague from a few years back?

Then, start finding the creative people outside of your orbit that are doing amazing work. Email them. Tell them. Not in a transactional networking kind of way. Do it from the heart.

Posting to everyone is a lottery ticket, but there’s a 50/50 chance someone replies to your email.