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I do a thing called Email Guidance, and I credit my absence on social media as one of the reasons for its success. Here’s a reply I got recently:

“Honestly Seth, I’m feeling so relaxed after reading this advice. Like it’s honestly just so pure and good that it feels right and helps me feel clear and focused about my steps to come.”

By not letting my attention be pulled in 100 directions per hour, I get to be bored and think and do the dishes.

Now, imagine you’re the one making the work that gets that sort of response.

How do you get there? By making and uploading vertical videos 100 days in a row? When do you have time for the work? For the art?

Your paintings can make people cry. Your music can get people through break ups. Your song lyrics could be tattoo’d on someone’s arm.

Spend your hours building your future days.

A most gracious Michael Maupin wrote this tonight, after chatting with a stranger for a bit:

Live in the world, but your Substack (and online life) is a part of it. They feed each other. You can’t be online all the time.

OPEN UP. Git yer ass outside.

I only really know Michael via Substack, but we’ve talked once on the phone awhile ago. Online met offline, at least by way of actual conversation late one night.

Same as Michael’s conversation with someone at a closing eatery. Stories shared, and he got a new subscriber to his newsletter. It’s not all about “growing our audience,” of course, but it all takes place one person at a time, whether you’re trying to run a store front, sell a record, or live a good life.

From Dan Blank, in “10 things I wish every writer knew about marketing.”

“What if instead of redesigning your website, you reached out to one person each day for three months? Where your goal was a meaningful conversation, a generous act, or a thoughtful reply.

I have seen writers not only learn so much in this process, but create wonderful connections and opportunities. Besides, wouldn’t it be nice to spend your days talking with people who love to read?”

I say do a little of both, but with a twist.

Let’s stop redesigning our websites, or rather, let’s just strip them to the bones and get back to the writing. I’ve had enough of the Squarespacification of what a website should be.

The blog format has endured because it works. One of the most popular websites in the world uses the blog format. Just a photo, followed by a block of text. Then another photo, with a block of text.

It’s called Instagram. Look it up.

Magazines, newspaper articles… photo, then text. Photo, then text.

THEN… then share some of those posts with people from time to time. That doesn’t mean blast it to “everyone” on social media. Instead, send one link to a person from time to time.

“Here, I wrote this is a bit ago and was thinking of you…”
“Hey, remember that time we did this thing?”
“I know you’ve been struggling with X, and I just wrote something about that.”

Our website is the library in our cozy cottage in the woods – not everyone visits, but for the right people it’ll feel like home.

Social media lets us become viral stars in an instant. With just our phone and a funny dance or witty remark we can be mentioned on late night TV.

But all that is fleeting. Seldom does anymore make a career from that.

The real work is slower, with other folks. It’s building the foundation one brick at a time, for years. Decades, even.

Conversations, collaborations, emails, phone calls, meetings and messages. Other people will get us where we’re going.

This was written by Bradley Spitzer about photography, but applies to so many other areas of life:

“Spending $3,000 on a road trip will have a greater impact on improving your vision compared to buying that brand new camera you’ve been lusting over.”

Heck, skip the road trip and start with a walk!

Get up from your computer and get near some water, drink a glass of water, take a nap. The gear, the tactics, the strategies will be there when you come back, but making sure you’re replenished and whole is most important in all this.